Sexual Health Counselling & Therapy

Let’s talk about sex, baby

Bet you can’t get that song out of your head now…sorry (not really). When it comes to sex, there is still so much misinformation and negative stigma out there.

When you’re sick, you see your doctor. When your eyesight is playing up, you visit your optometrist. If you’ve got a sore tooth, you see a dentist. So, doesn’t it make sense to see a sex therapist if you’re having issues that are directly related to your sexual health?

Sexual health is just as important as your general health and wellbeing.

Yet most of today’s education is still geared towards contraception, body parts, pregnancy and consent. It doesn’t help when porn, social media and movies, the major everyday influences, paint an unrealistic picture of what it’s all about. How about experiencing pleasure? Dealing with sexual shame? Embracing sex positivity and empowerment? We need to stop viewing sex as a taboo subject.

From understanding yourself to having your needs met, the acceptance that sex and sexual health issues are just another normal part of life will be incredibly liberating.

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Here’re a selection of the sexual health issues my clients face:

Erectile dysfunction may be caused by psychological factors or organic such as physical disease or ageing, often it is a combination of both. Some men experience stress, anxiety and/or depression which affects their sex life and self esteem. Sex therapy can help work through the emotions as well as provide strategies and education.
Don’t feel you identify with your assigned gender at birth? Or are you confused about your sexual attraction towards other people? This can be a lonely and scary experience for some people. Therapy can help work through the emotions and help you identify areas that you may need support with.
Being diagnosed with HIV/STI can cause distress for some individuals or couples and can potentially affect an individual’s sex life and/or relationship. There are many myths and misconceptions when it comes to STI’s which contributes to the stigma associated with having one. STI’s are common and easily manageable, having an STI doesn’t mean you can never have sex again. Sex therapy can help work through the psychological and physical blocks that may be affecting your sex life and/or relationship and provide education. 
Mismatched libido is when one partner wants sex more often than the other. This is a common problem in relationships and it’s not always the male who is wanting more sex. For some couples, mismatched libido could be a symptom of another problem not the cause. Sex therapy can help work through the differences and obstacles.
Painful intercourse can be due to medical or psychological causes. The pain can be on the superficial surface of the genitalia (at vulva or entry of vagina in woman) or deeper in the pelvis and or cervix. Men might experience pain when the foreskin is retracted because it is too tight, testicular or glans area of the penis after ejaculation. Sex therapy can help work on the emotional distress and provide education and techniques to do in the privacy of your home. 
Compulsive behaviours relating to pornography and sex  are common issues experienced by men and women. Sexual addiction, sexual dependency, hypersexuality, compulsive sexual behaviour and sexual compulsivity, are all examples of difficulty in management of sexual behaviour. Sexual thoughts can become an obsession and interfere with different aspects of the individual’s life such as ability to work properly, relationships, and daily activities. There may be underlining issues such as trauma, grief and loss, low self-esteem, depression, financial problems or relationship problems that could be contributing to the behaviour. Sex therapy can help the individual gain control over the compulsive behaviours by developing a treatment plan tailored to the individuals needs and circumstances and working through the behaviours with strategies to develop skills, education and counselling.
Premature ejaculation is a common sexual problem for men. Occasionally losing control is normal and is only a problem if it occurs frequently. Some men have always experienced premature ejaculation from their first sexual experience (lifelong) while in others, it has developed after a period of normal sexual activity (acquired). Premature ejaculation can cause distress between a man and his partner. There are various reasons why a male is experiencing premature ejaculation. Sex therapy can help work through psychological factors that may be contributing to this.
Vaginismus is a condition caused by involuntary vaginal muscle spasms making any kind of vaginal penetration painful or impossible such as insertion of a tampon, medical examinations or insertion of a penis. Primary vaginismus is the term that refers to a woman who has never been able to achieve penetration with a penis, sex toy, tampon or medical examination and is often diagnosed during adolescents. Secondary vaginismus is when a woman has previously been able to achieve pain free penetration and is now not able to achieve penetration. Sexual health counselling can help work on the emotional distress and provide education and techniques to do in the privacy of your home. 
Focusing on sexual pleasure, connection, awareness and education, we’ll work together to relearn your sexual techniques and behaviours.


My approach to sex therapy and counselling

I know that acknowledging and talking about sensitive sexual issues can be extremely challenging. Whether it’s online, over the phone or at my office, I provide a safe, confidential and respectful environment for you to feel as comfortable as possible.

Tailored to your needs and goals, my sex therapy sessions are designed to help you rebuild your confidence while relearning sexual techniques and behaviours.

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How does sex therapy work?

We’ll discuss your sexual history and assess the presented problem. Based on that, I’ll use a solution-focused approach and proven, evidence-based strategies to personalise a treatment plan that’s aligned with your requirements. We’ll also work through the emotional factors that may be contributing to your sexual health issues. Depending on your plan, I may give you homework and resources to go over in your own time, as part of your therapy.

Everyone is beautifully unique, which is why I never use a one-size-fits-all approach.

If you’re thinking of getting in touch with me, thank you in advance for your trust and for giving yourself permission to “heal”. Empowering your journey to sexual betterment and helping you achieve your personal goals will always be my top priority.

Have questions? Feel free to contact me. All enquiries are confidential.
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