Orgasms are the greatest sexual experiences. Most women feel the greatest pleasure of orgasm through clitoral stimulation. The body goes through some changes that increase sensitivity or arousal which get your body ready for the big orgasm.
An orgasm is a full body experience because it involves more than one erogenous zone (an area of the body which, when stimulated can create sexual response) . The tingling and explosive sensation you start feeling when you are excited is due to increased blood pressure and heart rate, and most of that blood is directed towards your genitals. As you get closer to orgasm your clitoris will pull back up under the clitoral hood. The clitoris is made up of over 8,000 individual nerve endings, it enlarges and swells. The inner labia will also begin to swell and the outer lips separate.
The Grafenberg spot or G-Spot, is the erogenous area of the vagina. Stimulating this area may lead to intense sexual arousal, powerful orgasms and the potential to ejaculate. There are still questions on whether the G-spot exists and the source of female ejaculation. Some studies suggest that the G spot is an extension of the clitoris which may be the cause of orgasms experienced vaginally. For some women, stimulating the G-Spot creates more of an intense orgasm than clitoral stimulation. The G-Spot needs direct stimulation such as 2 fingers pressed deeply into it. Sexual penetration such as missionary position is difficult to penetrate the G-spot because of the particular angle of penetration that is required. The Cowgirl or Doggie Style position may be easier to penetrate the G-Spot. There are many women who have never experienced a vaginal orgasm and this is normal.
The Sexual Response Cycle
Through their research, Masters and Johnston explain that there are four phases the body goes through before, during and after orgasm. The Excitement Phase, Plateau, Orgasm and Resolution Phase. The genital muscles, including the uterus , experience rhythmic contractions around 0.8 seconds apart. The female orgasm typically lasts longer than the male at an average of around 13-51 seconds. Unlike men, most women do not have a refractory recovery period and so can have further orgasms if they are stimulated again. For more information on the response cycle, look up Masters and Johnston and also check out Rosemary Basson’s response cycle which is more complex.
Benefits of Orgasm
When you orgasm, you body releases a cocktail of hormones such as oxytocin ( love hormone) which plays a role in social bonding, (cuddling) linked to passion and sexual reproduction. Oxytocin also helps reduce anxiety . Low levels of oxytocin is correlated with high levels of stress. Orgasms can help with self-esteem and gives you that sex glow.
Tips on how to orgasm
There are many different types of sex toys to help you orgasm or stimulate you G-Spot. Have fun experimenting with different types of toys to see what works for you. Masturbation can play a pivotal role. It is important to know your body and understand what works for you. This can be done solo or you can explore with a partner. Remember to communicate your needs, what you like and where to touch. Use language like, “ I love it when you kiss my”, “ It feels good when you touch my…